I’m a proud tradwife… these are the biggest misconceptions about the lifestyle

While many people think being a tradwife is about wearing vintage dresses and spending your days baking fresh good, Grace Patton has insisted that there’s much more to the lifestyle.

In recent years there has been a rise in the lifestyle, with hoards of women across the globe adopting the mindset from the early 1900s, when ladies were largely confined to taking care of the home and raising children.

But according to proud tradwife Grace, the trend is ‘often misunderstood,’ and she slammed the perception that it’s ‘oppressive or diminishes women.’

‘That’s so far from our reality – my role is empowering, built on mutual respect with [my husband] Bradley, where my work at home is valued as much as his career,’ she explained during an exclusive chat with the Daily Mail.

‘And no, it’s not anti-feminist – it’s about the freedom to choose a life that aligns with our values, not conforming to what society expects.’

The mother-of-five, 36, from Oklahoma, explained that she always felt like being a tradwife was her ‘hearts calling’ but couldn’t embrace it for years because ‘society paints traditional roles as lesser.’

‘We’re told women can do anything, yet choosing family over a paycheck is rarely celebrated,’ she said. 

She spent years ‘working a traditional job,’ but after she faced some ‘serious health challenges’ during her first pregnancy, she decided to step back from her job and focus on herself and their new baby.

Proud tradwife and mom-of-five Grace Patton, 36, from Oklahoma, spoke about her lifestyle with the Daily Mail

Grace (seen with her husband, Bradley) said the trend is ‘often misunderstood,’ and slammed the perception that it’s ‘oppressive or diminishes women’

Soon, she realized how much their family ‘thrived with her at home.’

‘I asked myself: is my job more important than my family? The answer was clear – no, it wasn’t,’ she explained.

‘We saw that prioritizing our home wasn’t about giving up ambition – it was about pouring my energy into what mattered most: our kids and our life together. 

‘Choosing this lifestyle let me prioritize our children’s growth and our family’s well-being.’

Flash forward to now, six years on, and Grace spends her days thrifting, cooking from scratch, and homeschooling their five children.

‘I wake with Brad and pick out his work clothes. I sing [to the kids] to wake them, making sure to say good morning to each by name,’ she dished. 

‘We share a homemade breakfast, pray, and read a devotional together, then as a team we clean up, start the dishwasher and laundry. 

‘Next, we homeschool. I guide the younger ones through songs and activities, while [our nine-year-old] Leo works independently. 

Grace spends her days thrifting, cooking from scratch, and homeschooling their five children

‘Between teaching, grading, meal planning, and chores, I’m always tinkering with ways to make things smoother.’

Grace insisted that while her husband is the ‘breadwinner,’ they share a joint bank account and have ‘equal access’ to their money.

‘Bradley values my role as a homemaker, seeing the structure and care I provide as just as vital as his paycheck,’ she explained. 

‘I don’t need permission to spend, and there’s no ‘allowance’ – we’re true partners.’

Grace said him focusing on his career and her on their home and family has ‘cut out conflicts’ that other couples may face over ‘who does what.’

And she vowed that choosing the tradwife lifestyle has come with a slew of other benefits.

‘[Bradley has] advanced faster at work, boosting our income, while I create a nurturing space for our kids during these precious, fleeting years,’ she revealed. 

‘I’m free from the pressure to juggle a job and home life, which saves us stress and costs like childcare or commuting.’

Grace insisted that while her husband is the ‘breadwinner,’ they share a joint bank account and have ‘equal access’ to their money

Grace does her makeup every morning even on days she doesn’t leave the house, and will never spend a day in her pajamas.

‘I see my role as a homemaker like a professional job. During the day, I dress from my capsule wardrobe – nothing fancy, just intentional. No pajamas, athletic wear or loungewear,’ she stated. 

‘It’s not about dressing up elaborately – just being intentional, like I was when working outside the home.’

She makes sure to have dinner ready when Brad gets home, and they spend their evenings ‘bonding as a family.’ 

‘When he comes home, often exhausted, he is freed from household worries,’ she added. 

‘I don’t expect him to handle night feedings or diapers either. I’m off work when he is because there isn’t anything else I need to do. 

‘This teamwork lets us spend evenings and weekends talking, planning, and dreaming together, united in our roles and faith.’

Unfortunately, Grace, who documents their lifestyle online, said they’ve faced some nasty comments from trolls. But she’s unbothered. 

‘To the haters I’d say: choose what brings you joy and reflects your values, just like we have,’ she said.

‘Our goal isn’t to persuade anyone but to uplift those who share or aspire to this tradwife life.

‘Our lifestyle, grounded in faith, love, and mutual respect, works beautifully for us. We’re thankful for the freedom to choose what is right for us and the peace it brings our family.’

In the end, she said she hopes ‘young women’ remember that ‘building a home’ is just as ‘meaningful and worthy’ as a regular job.

‘Your worth isn’t defined by a paycheck or title,’ she stressed. ‘Whether you choose a career or a life at home, you’re enough, and it’s OK to embrace what truly fulfills you.’